Question from Kathy

Oldest child, brother has BPD, undiagnosed, refuses to seek treatment, wicked smart/talented kid, I had to let go. I love him forever, but can’t sink with him. My kids/husband/mom need me. He messages mom so she knows he is alive, but we can’t give him money or for treatment. Self medicates, breaks me. I teach so I can help others, life is weird.