when i moved back to new york
in 1996 – with a new born parker in tow
preparing to start a new show
i needed a publicist

i met with only one
lois smith
a legendary powerhouse
founder of PMK

i walked into her office
looked into her sky blue eyes
and had to catch my breath
she was the spitting image of my nana

we talked for hours
about life and babies and show biz
turns out she lived in the next town
we soon became fast friends

many sundays she would stop by
on her way to salon z at saks
we zip over in her suburau
and scour the sale racks

we had many sunny days on my boat
in the hudson
her husband gene telling us the history of the area
why west point is – where west point is

she loved her clients
with a fierce loyalty
and a huge open heart
that went way beyond show biz

never without her bright red coat
she could be easily spotted in any star studded crowd
she was by my side as i rode the fame roller coaster
holding my hand thru the scary parts

2 weeks ago she called
“ducks” she said – hows the ticker?
she berated me for not coming to visit on plum island
she asked about my kids

she was one of a kind
and her death feels like a dagger
although 85 is a long life
hers was not long enough

returning to the 4 seasons one night in LA
after i hosted the grammys
she opened the limo sun roof
lifted her champange glass and said

“here’s to u world”

she taught me how to live
and how to love

i am not so sure what happens
after we leave the flesh behind
but i hope she is back with marilyn
talking about old times

as nora looks on
taking notes
lois had so many stories
what a movie that would be

this death thing
is impossible to get used to
i hope my heart can withstand it
sorrow is killing me

25 Responses to 'LOIS SMITH'

  1. Olivia Gatti says:

    Dear Rosie,
    I’m the last librarian Lois hired here in Newbury, MA. She was an instant kindred spirit, and it is no surprise that she was that for so many, as seen at her service today. My heart is broken, because I too feel like (selfishly, perhaps) we all needed her a little longer. When Brooke spoke of little Delia and how she lost her biggest fan, well, I knew exactly how that felt too. She treated the library with as much passion as her Hollywood career. I am blessed to have known her…

  2. Patsy says:

    I am so very sorry.. I believe you will see her again someday like I will see my son.. Bless you and give you peace. Death is hard.. Like living.. HUGGGGGGGS!!!

  3. karolyn says:

    Ro, I am sorry for your loss.I always am looking 4 a way to comfort people in times like these, however, death reminds every time that grief & loss are private journeys & words sometimes help but not really b/c we can’t change the outcome. a good bottle of wine won’t change it. Food won’t change it. endless crying won’t change it. a personal perspective that you accept about death & coming to terms with it as not an end but a beginning both for the departed & the grieving perhaps is an…

  4. JenniferT says:

    So sorry for your loss.


  5. Tuesday Menas says:

    That memorial gave me a visual of someone I didn’t even know. You have a gift, Rosie. You still mean the world to me and I think of you often. Tomorrow will be 6 years since your comment on “The View” changed my life forever. I hope you’re feeling much better. I’m 5 years cancer free thanks to you, my Dr and my meds. October is always a weird month for me but mostly I’m thankful for my life. I’m very sorry about your friend. May we all live to be 85. I think I’ll go buy myself a red…

  6. Carrie says:

    I am so sad for you, take a deep breath, grab one of your children and give them a bear hug. You will both feel better! Live with love!

  7. Elfie says:

    So sorry for your loss I know how it feels. However I have been there. I believe I have passed over during an accident it is bliss and I cannot wait to go back.

  8. Hugs,peace,white light and love to you, Rosie.

    • Dee Miron says:


      Your pain shot in2 my heart, spirit & soul. El8d u had Lois <3. Oct.8.1976 marks the 36th year of my Mom’s passing She was 40 when she left. Rosie it still hurts. My bro is about 2 leave- he is a writer- lives on Newport Beach- 55 yrs young but MS2 has got him in it’s grip. Dad left at 61 & longterm partner Kim who gave birth to 2 of our 3 kids- I had the middle 1- She left at 28. Ro what brings me peace is speaking 2 them, feeling them. I hope this helps soothe ur soul. Love2U&Hugz…

  9. Diane says:

    What a wonderful gift your relationship with Lois was. She came into your life to guide and support you and you were in her life so that she could share her knowledge and experience the joy you brought to her. How lucky the both of you found each other. Your writing is eloquent and honest and so thoughtful. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

  10. gloria says:

    yesterday was 8 years my Momj is gone. I lite a candle and kissed her photes so many reminders of her all day long.. it hurts but really helps..to c that memory of her i wish u please xo

  11. Mindy says:

    So sorry for your loss Rosie. No life is long enough to those who are left behind. That’s why I try to treasure every moment, every breath. I’ll do that until I take my own last one. I hope your loved ones can ease your broken heart. Love is the answer.


  12. Sheila says:

    Sweetie she is still with you, like your mom and nana, she’s in your heart. Grieving is a part of living, just not the fun part. Wrap yourself in the love and support of your family and dare I say, us too. One love Rosie.

  13. Colleen O. says:

    So sorry for your loss, Rosie. I agree with you about the death thing – I dread losing the people I love and think about it more often than I should, almost trying to prepare myself. Hold on to your heart, and take good care of yourself through the grieving. Sounds like you have a heart-full of fabulous memories of Lois. xoxox

  14. Michael says:

    That was beautiful you are a good friend she is now celebrating you !
    Be Well

  15. Janet says:

    So sorry for your loss. Loved your tribute poem.

  16. Erinsmom1980 says:

    You have experience profound loss with the deaths of Nora and Lois in such a short time. I know the loss of the death of a child and profound loss does make your heart hurt. I know the positive steps you have taken with your health will help you mend. Sometimes we just have to learn to breathe – slow and steady wins the race. My wish for you is that you feel the warmth of the sun and hear the song of a bird. This will remind you that Nora and Lois have found each other and are watching over you.

  17. Debra Masiello says:

    My sincerest condolences for your loss. Your poem is a lovely tribute to someone who obviously had an impact on your being and will be missed here on earth.

  18. Shelley Towle says:

    So eloquently written. “Who knew” what a fabulous relationship.
    You were both so lucky to have found each other.
    God bless you Rosie. Now seems like a good time to tell you
    Some thing I have had on my heart a long time. I had stage 4 cancer.
    You and your morning show was the only bright
    Spot in my day of 2session radiation. Thank you
    For the gift. 16 years ago… Sorry for the loss of
    Lois .

  19. Aggie says:

    So very sorry for your loss my prays are with you…and right now you don’t think so but your heart is strong enough to deal with this loss…isn’t that what she would want you to do?

  20. Lisa says:

    So sorry you have lost another dear friend. You should write a book about all the wonderful women who have mothered and grand mothered you. You are so eloquent in your sorrow. Peace to you.

  21. Sandy says:

    Beautiful tribute to an obvious important person in your life. Remember the good things.

  22. Sonya says:

    Prayers to you & her family. xoxo

  23. Tracy says:

    Rosie, your loss and words brought me to tears. I can hear your heart, and I am just so sorry…..

  24. liz1971 says:

    so sorry for your loss, ro. she sounded like a wonderful person. thinking of you.