Ask Rosie
Anne writes:
September 28, 2015 11:47 am
When I see situations like yours (and there are SO MANY) it makes me so fearful to adopt domestically. Somehow I fantasize that adopting from China or somewhere, the child doesn't have to wonder "why"? And there is nobody to suddenly "show up". Do all adopted kids have holes in their hearts?
http://www.amazon.com/The-Primal-Wound-Understanding-Adopted/dp/0963648004
Nohanna writes:
September 28, 2015 11:45 am
Keep trying to write something big or meaningful but really just want to reach out. Mothers and daughters...sigh. Not adopted daughters and mothers... Just mothers and daughters...same same same.i so get it! Haven't heard from my mom In 14+ Yrs. On we grow
indeed
Jen writes:
September 28, 2015 11:44 am
Did Chelsea graduate from high school?
no
gail writes:
September 28, 2015 11:41 am
I really wish I could do something to help you in some way. I know we are strangers but you are a beautiful person. May the storms cease and there be peace. Sending love and prayers for healing to you and yours xoxo
may the storm cease
Tall Holly writes:
September 28, 2015 11:40 am
I think there is no one right way to communicate with our children. Their needs change by the nanosecond. I think we need to love unconditionally. We can not keep them safe we can only hope they will be safe. We can continue to have hope. Strength to you on this journey.
hope is fleeting
dee writes:
September 28, 2015 11:33 am
I get it. The painful helpless feeling. I am mom,foster mom and adoptive mom. I can feel your love for your children so they can feel it. The outcome will be different because she has you to come back to. It is a journey I may be taking? You remind me of George Bailey.You are deeply respected and admired for all the right reasons.
its hard
Cathy writes:
September 28, 2015 11:33 am
2 adopted teen girls - both with mental health issues. So afraid of 18 - although my 16 yr old keeps taking off, self harm, drugs, mental health. The mental health professionals are slow to respond and have little to offer. Feels like I haven't exhaled in 4 years! Hang on and try to breathe.
u 2
Maggie writes:
September 28, 2015 11:32 am
I am still dealing from being adopted 66 years ago. It takes a lifetime to find oneself and recognize the really significant people who matter. Thinking of you every day, Rosie. Keep sending out the love!
ok
MO writes:
September 28, 2015 11:27 am
I went thru this. My 18 yr old left and was in a bad situation. I was terrified. The more I clung and tried to control the more she rebelled. So I Pulled back gave her no money. I kept her phone on because that was her lifeline. It took 5 months but she came home. Now she's 20 working, going to school. They think they are adults. Sending love
hoping for a happy ending
Jeannie writes:
September 28, 2015 11:23 am
At 18 bio daughter took off. She moved in with a druggy friend and became hooked on meth. She would come home sick and I nursed her back and she would take off again. One day, I said no. No. I told my son to take her away and she screamed at me and said why and I said I cannot watch you die-she came home after two years of hell. It's still not eas
so sad for so many
Alyssa O'Brien writes:
September 28, 2015 11:23 am
Thank you rosie, for answering the question about doing stand up at Gotham. My husband and I along with my family from Florida are leaving on a cruise sat 17th from nyc, I booked 7 for 9:30 show on the 16th. We are all so excited to have the chance to see you. You are so funny, and have made all of us "belly laugh"through the yrs. See you soon :)
ty
WetZ writes:
September 28, 2015 11:23 am
Daily Hug! Squeeze......xoxox Your recent posts are insightful. Still so heartbreaking. Take care my friend, take care. Another Hug! Squeeze.
ty
writes:
September 28, 2015 11:13 am
Hi Rosie I'm going through the same thing with my 19 year old adopted daughter..totally devastated ...our only child..my husband and I dedicated our life to this beautiful child .love and adore her..she met a loser boy and dropped out of college. Lives with him and the family..she won't have anything to do with us..heartbroken beyond words..
i get it
patty writes:
September 27, 2015 1:52 am
i am in my yellow place this weekend. I am at our cottage with my awesome son and my mom. Nothing better. I am an empty nester and both of my sons live far away so when I get a chance to be with one of them, I am so happy. I hope you have a happy weekend. Time will make everything better. Much love. Patty
we push away the unimaginable
Jem writes:
September 27, 2015 1:50 am
Kelly must be devastated too. She seems like the only quiet one. Never hear a word about her.
she is an amazing mom - friend - ex wife - human ... we r in this together - with anne - all hands on deck ...
"swim toward the boat" - we scream but the rapids r loud - its hard to hear - the cries of breaking hearts
as the current - and her confusion - take her down the river - out of sight ...
18
adult
i disagee
there must be a way
to get to 21
when at 15
it is obviously needed
nothing can be done
is what i hear
nothing can be done
18 is legal
but not always
i have heard from so many moms
and dads
and kids who once were - where she is now - gifting morsels of what worked for them
text her daily
= don't text her
let her talk to her sibs
- dont
try to pick her up
- don't go near
18 is legal
- go get her
nothing can be done
"swim toward the boat" - we scream but the rapids r loud - its hard to hear - the cries of breaking hearts
as the current - and her confusion - take her down the river - out of sight ...
18
adult
i disagee
there must be a way
to get to 21
when at 15
it is obviously needed
nothing can be done
is what i hear
nothing can be done
18 is legal
but not always
i have heard from so many moms
and dads
and kids who once were - where she is now - gifting morsels of what worked for them
text her daily
= don't text her
let her talk to her sibs
- dont
try to pick her up
- don't go near
18 is legal
- go get her
nothing can be done
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